“I want to share my story to help sufferers and their families from repeating my fate,” says Valeria, who is originally from Russia but now lives in Monaco. “I want young people to live happy, healthy and meaningful lives. Anorexia has made me lonely, unattractive and repulsive for the people around me.”
Her daily diet now includes only fruit, one small meal of meat and vegetables. Many foods have to be avoided because they don’t agree with her body any more. Valeria has been single for a decade because her illness makes her so miserable.
She believes her mother’s criticism of her as a child is partly to blame for her condition. Valeria explains: “My mother was afraid I would grow up obese like my relatives. For that reason she tried to restrict my eating from a very young age. “She made me weigh myself regularly to check that I hadn’t put any weight on. Because I was an only child, she wanted me to be perfect.”
At 16, and weighing 10st, Valeria moved to Chicago, USA, with her mum and stepdad. The move brought even more pressure to be slim. She adds: “The environment was very different. I wanted to be liked by everyone and I thought that if I lost weight, I would be accepted.
“I became trapped in a vicious circle where I needed to lose more weight to feel happy with myself.
“Now it’s almost impossible to put the weight I’ve lost back on because my body can’t process many foods.”
By the time she was 23, Valeria’s dress size had plummeted from a healthy size 12 to a tiny size six. And attempts at getting into modelling only made matters worse — because she was told she was STILL too fat.
Though she explains: “But it was my feelings of being an outsider that plagued me most.” Valeria’s passion was ballet and she dreamed of becoming a dancer. But at 24, and weighing just 6st, she was banned from dancing over concerns she would injure herself.
For the next ten years she saw more than 30 health specialists, though once dipped to a dangerously low 3st 10lbs. She says now: “This disease is not about being cured by a doctor.
“The best cure I ever found was when I said to myself, ‘I’m going to recover’.
“I was feeling better and when you feel better your body starts to come back to normal. When you become healthier your body will start eating, not vice versa.
“You don’t force yourself to eat then become better, it’s not like that.”
Today she takes supplements to counter the risk of bruising and avoids situations where she could fall.
She says: “I know I’m in a fragile state. I have to be very careful about where I go or what I do.”
Now Valeria believes the solution could lie in moving back to Moscow.
There is one incentive to get well again — having a baby via a surrogate. It is something she feels she can do if she can get herself healthy. “I think moving back to Moscow would help me once again feel at ease with myself,” she says.
“I would love to have a family because I feel I have so much to give.
“But obviously it wouldn’t be right to have a baby when I am ill. It wouldn’t be fair on the child.
“I want to stand up to anorexia. I’ve never given up on anything in my life and I’m not about to give up now.
“I must win, in order to feel that my life hasn’t been wasted.”
One Of Her Fan Letters
Hello dear Valeria,
I have tried all kinds of diets but they all yielded only temporary results. On my present diet I do not feel hungry eating 10½oz to 14oz of food per day, I cannot return to my old way of eating because I fear I will gain weight.
All my relatives are telling me it will hurt me, that I will be a victim of anorexia. I am a little worried that one day I will be faced with a problem of critically low weight and I want to know when to get worried. When did it happen to you?
Culled from THE SUN